Preschool Behaviors in Gifted Children

By Deborah L. Ruf, Ph.D.

These are general guidelines to help you know if you have a gifted child. Personality type, boy or girl, and the reactions of those around the children can affect how many of these items describe gifted preschool children. The earlier any of the behaviors below occur, the more likely the child is highly to exceptionally gifted.

Birth to 4 months:

bulletMakes eye contact soon after birth and continues this interaction and awareness of others
bulletMakes eye contact while nursing
bulletDoes not like to be left in infant seat
bulletAlmost always wants someone in the room interacting with him or her
bulletVery alert; others notice and comment

4 months to one year:

bulletSeldom “mouths” toys
bulletShows purpose with toys, seldom destructive or arbitrary
bulletPays attention when read to or watching TV
bulletPlays pat-a-cake and peek-a-boo
bulletWaves bye-bye, says ma-ma, dada, and bye-bye
bulletFollows directions, knows what’s next in routine

One year to 18 months:

bulletObvious interest in competence; has “fits” when not permitted to do it himself (or herself)
bulletLong attention span
bulletObvious interest in letters, numbers, books, and talking
bulletSurprisingly good eye-hand coordination for shape sorters, putting things in and taking things out
bulletUses puzzles and toys that are beyond stated age level
bulletDoes not chew on or tear books
bulletTries hard to please; feelings easily hurt

18 months to 2 years:

bulletTalking, clear understanding of others’ talk
bulletKnows many letters, colors, and numbers. The brightest gifted children often know how to count and organize by quantities, know many colors and shades, and know the alphabet in order or isolation. This is at their insistence, not parental drill.
bulletTenacity; needs to do it own way and not done until they are done
bulletNot easily distracted from what they want to do; don’t even try tricking them with distraction
bulletCan sing a song with you, knows all the words and melody
bulletClearly exhibits a sense of humor beyond typical “bathroom humor”
bulletAlthough active, activity is usually very purposeful and important to the child
bulletInterest in activities, machinery, and implements that are complex and maybe delicate, e.g., CD player, computer. Can handle them well, if allowed.
bulletBossy; quickly lose interest in any children who cannot do what they want to do.
bulletGrandparents have started to complain that your child is willful and perhaps spoiled.
bulletDrawing and identifying what they’ve drawn.
bulletStacking block towers of 6 blocks or more
bulletRecognizing basic shapes and pointing them out elsewhere
bulletNotice beauty in nature
bulletAttention to the feelings of others
bulletNeed to know “why” before complying

Two to three years:

bulletExcellent attention for favorite TV or videos
bulletShows tremendous interest in printing letters and numbers
bulletWill catch your mistakes, hold you to your word, and not forget promises or changes of plans.
bulletEasily frustrated with own lack of ability, seems to obsess on some things
bulletPeople outside the family start to comment on how smart your child is
bulletChild has trouble playing with other children same age, prefers adults or much older children but is not a lot of fun for them because child is still too immature
bulletThrows fits or tantrums especially when thwarted in doing something his or her own way to completion
bulletCan play with games, puzzles, and toys that state an age range twice their own or more
bulletEarly reading, e.g. know most store and street signs, recognize many names, labels and words in print
bulletMost tantrums precipitated by lack of adult respect or understanding; child is more likely to cooperate than simply comply with adult demands
bulletHighly competitive

Three to four years:

bulletHighly inquisitive
bulletHighly talkative
bulletIncreasing interest in books and reading and finding answers there
bulletLove to debate and reason and argue
bulletCan do many things on the computer
bulletMay become fearful of what they don’t understand, tend to think ahead and worry
bulletShow interest in how and why; ask questions and listen to answers unlike most age-mates
bulletInterested in strategy and application of rules; dismissive and annoyed at others who don’t “get it”
bulletBossy
bulletCreative
bulletCleverly manipulative
bulletPerfectionistic, even obsessive about developing own skills

Four to five years:

bulletMany start reading simple books then chapter books almost spontaneously before they are five
bulletShow interest in mature subjects but can be frightened by their own lack of perspective (e.g., natural disasters are both fascinating and frightening)
bulletIntuitive grasp of numerical concepts and mathematic reasoning; many can effectively compete with older children and adults in board and card games
bulletMay start to question the meaning of life, their own worth, etc.
bulletHuge vocabulary, huge memory for facts, events, and information
bulletIncreasingly facility with computers and keyboarding, video games
bulletObvious abstract reasoning ability, love of concepts and theorizing; philosophical and speculative
bulletGreat need to engage others in meaningful and intelligent conversation about the things that interest them (the children, not necessarily the adults)

Summary:

Gifted preschool children tend to initiate their own learning. In fact, it is one hallmark of high intelligence. Although strong parental or preschool involvement and instruction can accelerate a child’s acquisition of academic skills, children at different levels of intelligence will still gain those skills at a noticeably different rate.

Copyright © Deborah Ruf, 2006. All rights reserved.